So Now im back in the states


Let me tell you all something I went through a real emotional rollercoaster–this is something that I can not describe because even when it was described to me it didnt come close to any of those words. On a scale from 1-10 of how painful it was to transition back to civilian life I would say it was a 100! Literally the moment I landed on US soil I felt like I had made a huge mistake and I wanted to go back….. WTF!?!?! Then I couldnt sleep, I was a walking ZOMBIE for about 2 straight weeks::::the second day back I broke out into random bouts of tears, like full on im boohoo. Again WTF?!?!? I didnt want to see anybody while in cali the only person I saw was my homegirl Kaloni and my other homegirl Vay people that looked out for me you know….so I hid from the world, it was just too much—way too much stimulation.

That same week I returned Saturday I took off to the Dirty Dirty south to see my second sister we did a road trip to see my first sister who lives in DC–madness I know but it was all for a good cause–grad school. So I was just visiting mad friends that  I hadn’t seen since before I left–

I went to visit my university from Undergrad to see my professors::pretty much beg them for letters of recs–the one professor I was scared to see  ended up giving me the best letter of recommendation I have ever seen!!!! (lets just say he was one of my challenging professors that can smell bullshit lightyears away, so you have NO choice but to come correct in his classes!!!) anyways I couldnt have been more thankful, it was meant to happen that way–considering 2 of my professors no longer worked there (heartbreaking).

We then made our way to DC so we could spend thanksgiving and my birthday up there!!! Oh yea everybody my birthday passed hahaah first time in my life where my birthday really wasnt a big deal to me—for my birthday I met the creator of the Zuresh product line so I will have to do an update post of  all the sweet things I bought from her OMG let me just say::::HEAVEN!!!!! We ate at this spanish restaurant but on the way there I passed out in the car for a quick Zombie nap. Out of nowhere I just woke up like a Dracula or something. My sisters were like What the heck is wrong with you!?!?!  After I awoke I walked across the street to best buy to purchase Kanyeeeezy CD (yeeezy taught me) and then had dinner it was a good night(sorry the pics of the dinner got deleted)

but here are some highlights of my road trip

First on the list stone soup kitchen and my best bud:


This chai tea has haunted me many nights


my homboys do music now so i laid down a quick 16bars it will never see the light of day!!

 Chillin with fam for the holidays in DC, can I just say I love the vibe of DC!!(my sisters townhouse is the the bizness)

Jorge and I, I was about to fight


mmmmmm jamaican food *drool*

My birthday

playing with my older sisters antique phone

fresh flowers


Donette, my second sister took me on a 4hour mission to see the lincoln memorial—my hands froze and I was pissed at her for making us walk like 10miles but it was worth it.

We then made our way to NYC to visit my aunt in BROOKLYN!!! My third Home.

my sister just had to be a tourist

Headed to Philly philly to visit my grad school, sat in on a class and spoke with the director of the department International Peace and Conflict Resolution. Looking good folks wish me luck on acceptance–after I visited the other half of the 3Musketeers and her baby in New Jersey.

Just like old times


My lil god-daughter


Came back full circle to ATL to see my right hand man Eboni before I took off

We do this for a living


not quite



Hair update!

So last week I celebrated my 6months of natural-ness of hair (i made that up). Can you believe its been 6months since I cut my hair with the same sciccors I used for cutting my dog’s hair even paper cutting, hahahaha I just came home from school and got to work while listening to a weezy mixtape—random since I dont even consider myself a weezy fan but it had enough fearless lyrics combined with cuss words to get me hype to go through with it. At one point I was getting so sciccors happy that the back part ended up being cut shorter then the front part it was so funny now that I look back but you couldnt tell me otherwise…..

So I put together this little compilation of photos so you could see the progression take a look(click to enlarge)

Month 3 to 4.5 I skipped over because my hair was in the kinky twist which im sure if you have checked out my blog you have seen what that looks like so moving along to month 4.5

I had contemplated long and hard if I should wait till I get home to get a hair cut or should I go to my african hairbraiders husband to cut my hair with the clippers—-I really wanted my dad to shape me up but I couldnt wait my hair was all sorts of uneven! I went for it and had princess(her husband was gone) cut my hair with the clippers it was the best idea ever! the only downfall—- I had pieces of hair that was cut still falling out a week later… even after I washed my hair 3times!!! It was all worth it though why because my curls have been poppin ever since.

Drum roll please………………………………………………………

I mean Just look at the progression, its amazing how much my hair has grown how curly my hair has gotten(my curl pattern has changed many times be patient if your still in the beginning stages) and the thickness is just *OOC* (out of control) Now I will divulge my hair care regimen as of now, im not going to go into the details of how I got to this point. Lets just say trial and error and thats the fun about having a TWA (teeny weeny afro- this is a real acronym in the natural hair community) you get to experiment all you want thus learning how to manage your hair while ulitmately learning best practices for black hair care.

My regimen:

Every sunday (sometimes starting saturday night) deep conditon:

  • I use honey
  • Extra virgin olive oil
  • jojoba oil
  • herbal essence hello hydration
  • tea tree oil
  • grape seed oil

mix together and begin working it through each and every strand of hair, I place a plastic cap then a towel wrap to assimilate a heating cap leave in for a couple hours, then I wash my hair


  • lavender dr. bronners diluted castille soap, follow-up with a co-wash


I do 2 co-wash rinses after, I detangle.

  •  I use many different brands at once usually its Suave naturals ocean breeze then VO5 tea tree therapy
  •  Sometimes its VO5 tea tree therapy then bed head moisture maniac
  • Sometimes its all of the above mixed in with some bath and body works nettle conditioner

…the point is use what your hair likes, lots of naturals use expensive brands but I dont need all of that I leave the expensive items for my moisture products.


After I complete my second co-wash I leave the conditioner in and add to this,

  • I now add Qhemet Biologics cocoa butter ghee detangler
  •  an  a little vatika oil

 First I comb my hair using just my fingers, if I feel the need or want to prove a point to myself I run my denman brush through my hair. 90% of the time the brush runs right through my hair but sometimes I will get lil areas that need an extra mmmpppphhhh. After my hair has been detangled I let that sit in my hair and continue with my shower. I then do a cold, cold rinse of the products and shake my hair out.

Protective Styling: I began a very militant routine with my hair I keep it twisted in 2 strand twists 5days a week and let my hair be free friday and saturday (sundays are my wash days) while my hair is dripping wet I apply Zuresh leave in conditioner then my vatika oil, after that I let my hair absorb all that goodness. I then sit down and part my hair for my two-strand twists I apply my Zuresh curl detangler/definer or my miss jessies curly buttercream then my Qhemet Biologics- Amla Olive heavy cream(this stuff right here….man is the truth) I know this sounds like a lot but my hair thrives for the whole week without adding more moisture—-since I’m doing a challenge(more of that in a bit) I add just for safe measures and I end up adding a little bit of vatika oil with my zuresh curl definer/detangler(absolutely love the smell I cant live without it which is funny because I hated it at first) this is the perfect balance for my hair so its not too heavy!

Here is a look at all my products, I wont go into great detail about my products because they work for MY hair. I dunno what works for yours you gotta figure that out by trial and error like I did—- but some of these might work for you. Also none of these companys are paying me so I encourage you to check out thier websites if your interested in anything and need ingredient details. I spent plenty of weeks, days, hours looking into what I thought my hair would like— heres a word of advice start with the minimum then build from there add to your hair regimen as you go along to cut down on becoming a product junkie.

I will make a special mention of special treatments I do for my hair just to make sure its at its healthiest and strongest.

Every 3-4 weeks I do an ayurvedic treatment its a mixture of indian hair powders that you mix together to make a mud type mask for the hair, the products are by hesh and I have purchased the following

  • amla powder
  • brahmi powder
  • shikakai powder
  • aritha powder

Like I said do the research if you would like to know more but to sum it up it helps grow the hair thicker, cleanses the scalp, strenthens the hair, stops premature greying(not worried about that) promises to assist with hair growth.

The other treatment is a protein conditioner. Every 8weeks sometimes 10weeks I try to do a protein treatment. I pretty much bought this product

  • Piere cardin protein treatment(the rest is in korean) 

The store was going outta buisness and they were selling this big bottle for mad cheap so I knew I wanted to incorporate a commercial made product because when I used the mayo, egg combo it dried my hair out. This commericial product doesnt(i’ve used piere cardin before and thier a pretty good brand) but it might have to do with all the other things I use now but I dont want to take my chances with the mayo/egg it definitely dried my hair out! 

As for the challenge I mentioned earlier, I am a fan of many blogs and vlogs, specificaly one of the blogs I follow is doing a WL(waist length) hair challege by April of 2012!! Thats totally far fetched for me but I put my bid in for BSL(bra strap length) totally doable so with that being said I need my hair to be protected and cared for at all times. Its good that im learning how to care for my hair without relying on a stylist at the same time i’m having fun with other girls who would like to grow their natural hair out as well, since we are a tight knit community( i dare you say something negative to us.. see how fast we got each other backs) we all share good days and we all share bad days. Whether I make the length or not it is not the point but rather to prove to myself that with healthy eating, working out and ‘best practices’ with natural hair its attainable for black women to have long gorgeous hair.